The compulsion to do good is an innate American trait. Only North Americans seem to believe that they always should, may, and actually can choose somebody with whom to share their blessings. Ultimately this attitude leads to bombing people into the acceptance of gifts.
The antiquity and general acceptance of an opinion is not assurance of its truth.
Be willing to have it so. Acceptance of what has happened is the first step to overcoming the consequences of any misfortune.